**The following post contains adult content.
I usually like to keep things light here at Smockity Frocks, but today we are going to take a detour and I’m going to get something off my chest that has been bothering me.
I would like to make clear that I have dear friends who are on all sides of this issue and they are still my dear friends. What you are about to read are my very strongly felt opinions on a personal matter, not a test of friendship. Please, don’t be offended if you disagree.
It has come to my attention very recently that some churches like to teach sex education beginning in the jr. high classes. The foundations of the classes are Biblically based and the goal is to encourage purity.
One problem I have with these classes, though, is the absolutely shocking and extremely graphic language and descriptions used. It has even been noted by proponents and teachers of the classes that there are children learning of sexual situations for the very first time in these classes. BIBLE classes.
Which leads me to the next troublesome issue. Jr. High? Really? You can call me old fashioned, (and I would say, “Thank you!”) but we have two children of jr. high age and we are simply not needing to have these kinds of discussions yet. Our jr. high kids are still interested in building snail habitats and making elaborate plans to dominate this year’s gingerbread house competition.
Some have said, “That may be true for you, but there are kids that age who are dealing with this temptation.” I would reply, first of all, that it is a very sad situation, and secondly, if that is true, they should be treated as the exceptions, not the norm.
There are also children who have been sexually molested and children suffering from serious diseases and children who have lost parents, but we do not set up discussion groups and order curriculum to address these issues with classrooms full of children who have previously had no experience with these struggles.
Also, why does it take weeks of curriculum and posters and discussions to say what the Bible outlines very plainly in a few verses?
“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.” 1 Cor. 6:18
Pretty straight forward, no?
This passage in 1 Cor. 7 makes it even more crystal clear.
1Now concerning the things about which you wrote, it is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband.
3The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband.
4The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
5Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. (emphasis added)
We have talked in our family about keeping pure before marriage and how God created our bodies to enjoy sensual physical touch. Kissing, caressing, etc. That enjoyment has been made, by God, to be kept within the confines of marriage.
In other words, a husband and wife may enjoy each other, but that enjoyment must not be practiced alone or with anyone besides the person’s spouse. This was ordained by God from the beginning.
And there you have it.
No posters. No weekly discussion groups. No graphic descriptions. No giggling groups of girls.
Private. Personal. Simple.
I just don’t think it is wise to introduce such a sensitive topic at such an early age, and also to talk and talk and talk about it in such detail and in such a public forum.
We would like to have these discussions with our children privately and do NOT want them to feel free to talk of such personal things publicly. We also like to study the Bible in Bible class and not so much ourselves, but that’s a whole other post.
I think there is the perception these days that things that were formerly private matters should be proudly spoken of publicly. I do not agree with this and I do not believe that more information is always best.
Besides, I happen to personally know a crazy lady with seven children who has a very pleasing relationship with her husband even though she has never attended a single sex ed class or discussion group! She remained very innocent and naive right up until her wedding night, and she suffers absolutely no adverse affects from it to this day!
Or so I’ve heard.