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Getting Rid of the Pacifier

 

This is another backward edition of Works For Me Wednesday. That means I don’t have any tips for you, but I need tips from you.

We have a paci addict here in Smockityville.

  • Gender: female.
  • Age: 2.5
  • Level of Addiction: hard core

Our other children who have used pacifiers have been attached to them at varying degrees, but never to THIS degree. We are talking serious panic mode if no one is able to locate a pacifier at a critical moment during the day. And I’m going to keep names out of this to protect the main enabler, but a certain motherly type has been known to offer a quarter to anyone who can locate a paci PRONTO. (Is that so wrong?)

So, here’s where you come in. I need your best tips for getting rid of the pacifier. What has worked for you? Is it wise to break the habit before the new baby arrives or after?

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  1. I snipped the tips off of my daughter’s pacifiers when we were getting her to give it up. I let her have one as much as she wanted, but I cut the tips off at a rate of about 1/3 inch per day. Once the tip got short enough, she decided it wasn’t worth the effort & gave it up on her own.

    • @Jeni, Wow, I thought I was the only one who did this! My little one just turned 3 and the dr said she was getting an overbite. She only had it at nap and bedtime for the past year, which helped. There wasn’t any screaming or crying, she just understood that the paci was broken and couldn’t be fixed.

  2. The only thing that worked for me was just throwing them all away. It was a horrid 2 days, but that was it! Only one of mine did a pacifier. Two of my kids sucked their thumbs. I purchased some stuff called mavala that you paint on their nails and that did the trick with that. I don’t know if it would be safe or not, but maybe put that on the pacifier? It makes it taste pretty bad I think. Good luck!

  3. Oh this was rough for us too! Our doctor’s office recommended poking a small hole in the tip of it to let the air out. Then, you can gradually increase the size of the puncture until it’s no longer appealing to them.

    We ended up limiting the paci to naptime only. It was a little rough the first night, but then we reminded her that the pacifier was only for naptime, not bedtime. She was okay with that, but that ones going to be WAY different for different personalities, I’m sure!

  4. One more idea… My aunt did the Binkie Fairy thing. She started talking up the Binkie Fairy for a week or so ahead of time. Then, on the big night, they left the pacifiers out for the Binkie Fairy. In return, the Binkie Fairy left some really wonderful gifts.

  5. I look forward to everyone’s help. I have an almost 4 year old who is seriously ADDICTED. We were doing well until a recent move set him back. We try to stick to only bedtime, but I find him sneaking it all the time. Now my 2 year old is addicted as well. I know it will be rough to take them away so I am procrastinating. I am curious to find an easier way than just cold turkey.

  6. Try snipping off the tip. It worked for all the kids I babysat! They ended up throwing the paci away cause they couldn’t get suction anymore.

  7. We used the binkie fairy with our older son. We prepared him for a couple if weeks, and when we thought he was ready, he put his 2 remaining binkies into a special box so that the binkie fairy could take them to a new little baby who needed one. He asked for them back once, but we reminded him that he was too big for them & that a baby somewhere really needed them. He was totally fine about it.

    Having said that, it is possible for binkies to become “transition items,” so you might want to consider whether they really need to go right now. Would you take her Teddy bear or “Woobie” away if that was transistion item? Maybe you could just limit their use to a certain tome or place. About a month before we got rid of them, we told our son that the binkies had to stay in his room, so if he wanted one, he had to stay in his room with it. Being with others was more reinforcing than being alone, so he cut back on their use. But, he also had a stuffed dog as his actual transition object…

  8. My daughter is only 8 months old so I have not tried this yet but… We had friends with a 3 year old that was addicted to her paci and they tried several things with her.
    They had her plant one to see if it would grow more.
    They told her that she was a big girl and needed to pass them on to my baby.
    Only at nap and bed time then only at bed time.
    They cut the tips off little by little.

    The one that finally worked was a combination of the last 2. I noticed her starting to suck on lids from sippy cups too so be careful of that. I want to try to plan my attack around Christmas time and have her mail it to Santa so that she can get a super present but I guess the Binkie Fairy is along those same lines. Good luck!

  9. I did not read the other tips so someone else may have listed this one but my favorite tip I ever used (on a kid I was a nanny for) was to take the child to Build A Bear. Let them pick a bear and build it – when you get to the stuffing have them put their pacifer in it (make sure it is the last and only one so they cannot find another one when they get home). Then when they are feeling like they need/want the pacifer give them the bear. This encourages them to transfer the security object but still allows them to get the comfort they need.

  10. So much to say…words get in the way.

    You’ll do what’s best, and your little Addict will not need to pack a paci for the honeymoon.

  11. I agree with whoever said – they won’t take it on their honeymoon. She won’t even take it to kindergarten so personally I wouldn’t worry about it. You could start with only in the house, then only in her room then only at nap/betimes. And then one day it can just come up lost and she will have a bad night, but will be ok. (this won’t work with a new baby with new paci’s – kids don’t mind sharing.) I would attempt to keep the new baby’s paci only for bedtime once he/she is mobile, will make the transition easier.

  12. I don’t know… I never had a paci addict so far. In fact my kids wouldn’t take a paci unless I superglued it to their face. Really. Both kids so far have hated their pacis. And with the extreme colic my 1st had I must say I was really bummed she wouldn’t take one. I tried for 2 months and then gave up. My son would suck on one but only a certain kind and only if I sat there and held it in his mouth and only for the first 3 months of his life and only for 30 seconds at a time. It wasn’t worth it.

    BUT that said I did have bottle addicts. That bedtime bottle is a big deal apparently. :p And my daughter had a talent for being able to pitch a 6 hour long fit so I tried pretty much every gradual method I’d ever heard of to get her to transfer to sippy cups at bedtime and then later to transfer to water instead of milk in bed and she wouldn’t go for it so I wound up just having to cut her off cold turkey. Sure she screamed for half a week pretty much 24-7, but hey after that it was OVER. The gradual methods wore on for months with no real results. Then there’s my son. He didn’t want to give up his bottle and try a sippy either. The problem in his case was that he liked to use his bottle AS a paci! He wouldn’t take a paci, but he’d suck an empty bottle ALL day and ALL night. No joke. I tried the gradual methods for a few weeks but he wouldn’t touch a sippy with a 10 foot pole, so I then decided to quit wasting my time and just switch him outright. So I picked a weekend when hubby would be home to help and so I could be up all night when he needed me and then sleep the next afternoon while hubby was up as our start days. It only took 2 days before he was fully switched to sippy’s and no more bottle.

    So, I have no experience with an actual paci, but my son thought his bottle was a paci and sucked the empty thing 24-7 and here are the things I learned from both my kids that I’m keeping in mind for baby #3: Have something ready to replace the item you’re taking away because if YOU don’t pick what they transfer their need for a comfort item to, then they will pick it themself and it might be just as bad or worse than the item you’re trying to phase out. Give them a chance but not too many chances to get used to the replacement item and then once you know they aren’t afraid of the replacement item, and are physically capable of using it and mentally capable of understanding how to use it, pull the old item cold turkey. It’s easier in the long run.

    Oh and I would think it might be easier to wait on getting rid of the paci and just take it from the toddler at the same time as the baby when the baby is like 10 months or something. If you quit the toddler now and she misses it too bad (and being 2 1/2 she’s likely gonna really miss it) then the second you get the pacis back out for the new baby, they will start “magically” winding up in the toddler’s mouth and you’ll have to quit her all over again. Unless your kids are nothing like mine and are not stubborn or opportunistic at all. ;) If they were my kids then I’d say the pacis are going to wind up in the toddler’s mouth when the baby is born anyway, better to wait and quit them both at the same time than to quit the toddler and then later have to keep getting after her 20 times a day to leave the baby’s paci’s alone until the baby is old enough to box up the pacis. It’s probably embarassing to have a 2 1/2 – 3 year old sucking a binky but in my mind the lesser of evils would be to just wait rather than doing it now and creating a situation where you know she’s going to wind up defying you and sucking on the baby’s pacis and you’ll have to get after her for it. Besides having the baby quit at the same time might be helpful to her, and will be less crying withdrawal time for Mom to deal with in the long run. That’s just my 2 cents but obviously I don’t have any paci experience so you’ll have to take what’s good in that advice and pitch the rest. ;)

  13. Our oldest was a hardcore binky fanatic, and so we limited the bink to naptime and bedtime first for a while, and then traded her for some art thing she wanted and it worked great. We currently have a just turned 3 year old, and a 17 month old that are both hardcore binkyists….but we are due at the end of november with our fifth child. The binky/finger sucking thing skipped our son for some reason. So, we’ve not cut our 3 year old off yet, we’ve just limited all binky use to nap/bedtime except if they hurt themselves or something, and it seems to be working okay for both of the little girls. I will prolly wait until the new addition is old enough to take the bink from, or if the baby takes after our son and doesn’t take a bink then we will get rid of the binks either the same way as we did our oldest, or take them and have them put in a stuffed animal they make…..it really depends on the personality type I think.

  14. I must say, I was rather irritated with the hospital when they popped a paci in baby’s mouth since I wanted to try and forgo the whole paci thing. Hubby and I would take it out, but when we weren’t around it was back in. Whatever. By the time we got home baby was attached. So we dealt with it till she was about 10 months or so. Then I saw a 5 year old in a store with a paci. I freaked out and told hubby we were stopping the paci use. Yeah, that lasted all of a night! LOL!! After a pretty much sleepless night of crying, (and the little one, too), hubby said “lets wait till she’s a little older.”

    At that time we did what a lot of posters suggested and the paci became only a naptime/bedtime soother. We did have times where she’d find it and use it, but we’d take it away and just reinforce that it was for naptime/bedtime. (hehe… we even tried asking if she wanted to take a nap so she could use it, but that didn’t work!).

    I think we were pretty lucky that our little one gave the paci up on her own shortly after a year old. Not sure if it had anything to do with anything, but she bit the tip off of one and we just never gave her another. After we discovered the bit off tip, we just took them all away and she never looked back.

    Good luck!

  15. We cut our daughter back cold turkey to just when she’s in the crib. For as much of an addict as she was, she really adjusted very carefully. (She was younger–just 1). Now we’re trying to decide when it goes altogether and I’m horrified. I think it’s just going to have to be cold turkey. And we’re planning on having to stay up for 2-3 nights in a row. But she’ll adjust eventually…right?

  16. I vote for letting her keep it, at least until she adjusts to the new baby. I agree with those who said she won’t take it on her honeymoon.
    Kind of like Kim C’s take (from INASHOE) on thumb sucking.

  17. shelley says:

    I did not have this problem with my own kids, they always spit it out wholeheartedly, but I have had two friends take different approaches and both worked well for their children. One talked her daughter into giving the paci to the easter bunny and the other got her son to donate the paci to underprivileged children who did have one. Each kid is different, I hope you find the thing that works for your little one. Good luck to you both.

  18. Oh the worry. The stress. All for naught.

    For my FOUR year old daughter. Did I just say that? Just walked into the kitchen one day and handed the paci to me. “Here mom. I’m too old for this. Give it to a baby.”

    End. Of. Story.

    After all the panicking you are talking about for years! I wish I had known. I would have relaxed a whole lot.

  19. We stressed for a long time over this with our first daughter. Finally, at almost four I took her to the dentist and MADE him tell her she had to give it up! He was a little sad…everytime I had asked him about it, he told me to leave her alone because is she was going to need braces she would need them regardles.
    We didn’t have a terrible time once we made the decision to go for it. We did it in steps. No plug (that is our name for it!) while palying outside, no plug except in the car or for bed. Small steps. Once she got used to not seeing it for most of the day, things were much easier when it came time to make them disappear! Oh, and we also let her keep hers for the first couple of months after we had our second daughter. You never know, you may luck out and she will decide the new baby needs them more than she does!
    My bottom line advice is, don’t stress about it! :)

  20. stacey says:

    My children are well past the paciyears so take what you like in this advice and leave the rest. Use the pacifier at night and bedtime, as she gets older start snipping the end off. Like some of the above comments she won’t go on her honeymoon with a pacifier. After all, we moms and dads are the ones who gave them the pacifiers to begin with. In the big picture, will it matter if they stopped at 2 or 5. We have a saying in our home”Is it life threatening,is it morally threatening, and will it grow back?” With your new blessing about to arrive, the extra comfort the pacifier will give her and those around her will probably be the perfect balm for everyone.
    May God bless you as you raise mighty warriors for Him!!!
    Stacey

  21. I’m no expert because only my first used a paci, but my inclination would be to NOT take it before the baby comes, especially if the baby will get one. That could lead to resentment and she will need her comfort and security while adjusting to the new baby. Once she feels secure she may even want to give her old pacis to the new baby :)

  22. I loved watching Supernanny with Joe Joe on it when my youngest was a toddler. She had an episode on there one time where they gathered up all the pacifiers in the house and tied them together to the end of a cluster of helium filled balloons. They gathered the family together and got outside and told the little girl that they were sending them to some other children who didnt have any pacifiers. They let them go and watched them float to the sky out of sight. They made a big celebration out of it and had cake and ice cream(to get her mind off it). The whole idea was to get her involved in the gathering, tying and letting go to prepare her ahead of time. It was amazing. They all praised her for being a big girl.

  23. When everyone is ready to start limiting the paci, one idea is to sew it to her pillow. So she either has to carry around a big pillow, or stay in bed if she wants to use it. I don’t remember but apparently this is what my Mom did to me :-)

  24. Alice McD says:

    I think she’s smart enough and old enough to understand that the new baby is a “baby” and she is a “big girl” now, as long as the family has stopped calling her “The Baby” in her presence (and you have, haven’t you?)

    “Using a pacifier all the time is for babies” can be the new mantra for everyone else in the family, hopefully she adores her siblings enough for the prevailing opinion to affect her addiction.

    I’m in the club of moms who set a future date the child could count down to when the pacifer would be a “bed use only” item. After making that the rule I wasn’t worried about when they actually gave it up.

    To make sure mine didn’t use each other’s pacifiers I used a different type/shape. If it wasn’t their brand, they didn’t want it!

  25. I heard of someone recently who “sent the pacifier to Cinderella” and I have heard of Christmas/birthday gifts being withheld until the paci was given up.

    Thankfully we haven’t had this problem, but with one more on the way there is always a chance!

    Our dentist said his daughter didn’t give hers up until age 5 and her teeth are fine–if that is a concern.

  26. I’ve tried every single one of the techniques mentions above for my 2 1/2 twin addicts. So all that resulted in was a night full of hysterical crying so hard they were hoarse for days. It felt like torture.

    So they are limited to the paci just at nap and bed time, and when I go to be I usually slip in and take out their paci’s. But they always fall asleep with them.

  27. I see several have beat me to the punch – hands down, snipping the tips off has worked the best! Our daughter was the toughest, and it took snipping a little bit more off each week for several weeks before she gave it up. She would actually bite the paci to make it stay in! Lol Our youngest though, after the first snip, handed the paci to me and said, “It broked, Mom.” :) That was the end of that! Good luck!

  28. Laurie says:

    I don’t know that it will work for your situation, but I can tell you what we did for our little passy lover. My passy child was number two, also female, and I had number three about the time she was two and a half. I decided to let her keep the passy until after number three had been here a while cause I felt I couldn’t offer extra comfort to her at the time with a newborn. We tried to tell her it was just for naps and bed time, but then she would go lie in her bed at odd times of day just to be with her passy! We started telling her that when she was three she would be a big girl and she would get to “snip” her passy. (We also prayed she would become less attached to it. seriously!) She seemed unsure about this at first, but she was excited to get to use the scissors. After months of telling her this and her birthday about two days away, she brought her passy to me and told me she wanted to cut it. I handed her the scissors and POOF- it was gone. She ran off SMLILING! I was the one left standing there with a cut passy and tears in my eyes. Oh, they grow up fast!

  29. Our 2nd born was a full fledged paci-ADDICT. And after his first dental exam around age 3 or so, we were informed that paci must go, or we were certain to have large orthodontic bills in our future, as paci was seriously messing with our son’s mouth structure. So, we headed to Target, let our sweet boy choose a new lovey (because that’s truly what his paci was–it was his comfort, his lovey at nap & bedtime)…and when bedtime came around, we informed him that paci has to go…but here’s your new lovey…he, needless-to-say, was NONE too thrilled with our whole switcheroo plan, but after a rough couple of days, he grew to love his new lovey. He did periodically ask about paci, and comically he would wave to it whenever we passed the dentists office, saying that the dentist had taken his paci…it was harder on us, I think, just because he did cry, and that was hard, but we knew it was best for him to make the transition sooner than later.

    Good luck! :)

  30. If it were me, I wouldn’t sweat it. Really. And this is from a momma who never used pacifiers. I also really don’t like them. But your girl is still young enough that it won’t affect her teeth (4 or 5 is when that happens, I understand). If the problem is her attachment to it, do you really want to take away the thing that gives her the most comfort? When it comes to breaking a habit, I’ve worked it around birthdays. “Oh, 3-year olds don’t put those in their mouths. When you turn 3, the paci has to go back to it’s home.” Now would be a good time to work up to that. You could even start working on only at nap time or bed time.

    I would NOT tell her that the baby needs them, so she has to give hers up. for the baby. I know families who used this technique for weaning from pacies, bottles, and nursing and it doens’t always go well. She may resent the baby for it. Plus, it’s normal to see some regression after a new baby comes, so to take it away before hand may just end up with a super-crabby and demanding 2.5 year old while you divert your attention to the baby. Not to mention, she may just steal the baby’s paci (if you use them for babies.)

    When you do find a method to try, be flexible. It’s OK to go back if she’s really not ready. And expect her to be sad and crabby. Plan to giver her extra attention and praise. Plan to distract her when she wants it back. We’ve avoided many of the negatives by working up to it and talking about getting ready by giving up a habit on a birthday – well, we’ve still had to use distraction, but haven’t had any fits about it. We made it part of a good thing and part up getting bigger, so even though they didn’t look forward to giving up the habit, they looked forward to the event. (We have a potty-training party for our kids when they transition into underwear.)

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  31. We only let our daughter have her paci when she was in her room. We would have limited it to nap time and bedtime, but she was able to reach it on her own. She even chewed holes in it, and I told her (when she was 2 1/2) that she wasn’t getting another one. She continued to use it. We had always known that we would make her get rid of it when she turned three, so we played it up BIG TIME that three year olds don’t get pacis. We had a bad evening that first night, but I really think that part of it was because we had a big party beforehand which wore her out. After that, it wasn’t any big deal. I don’t think she asked for it again, but if she did, we just told her that three year olds don’t have pacis. We plan on doing this again with our son who just turned two. He is only allowed his paci when he is in his bed.

  32. Andrea Lewis says:

    We lost our soother while visiting friends, it was a holiday so getting more was not an option, but it was a rough go.

  33. Lauren says:

    Ok so my daughter was a HARD CORE addict to her soothie and nothing anyone suggested worked. Cutting the tip off did not phase her one bit. We had to do it cold turkey! We got no sleep for about 4 days, but it didnt last forever. If you do this, I would most definitely suggest doing it before the baby arrives

  34. With my first we went cold turky, but put a black light in his room and soothing music for some comfort. My second, we had let her sleep in our bed the first year, so when we moved her to her own bed, we figured she was going to scream anyway, so we took the paci at the same time. If we had to go through the torture of hearing her cry, we might as well kill two birds with one stone. I think we took it away too soon though because she didn’t sleep well for the next year!

  35. We are in the same boat here. Our 2-1/2 year old loves his binky. He will steal his little sister’s during the day since he is only supposed to have his in bed. He will even go lay in bed in the middle of the day just so he can have his binky fix. I’m trying to figure out what method will work best for him.

    There have been some great suggestions already, but here is what worked for us for our two older kids. First off, let me say that we limited binky use to only nap/bedtimes. For my daughter, I told her that she wouldn’t be having her binky anymore, and then I let her stay up as late as she wanted one night, hoping that when she finally went to bed, she would be so tired that she wouldn’t even need the binky. We made it a fun night: watched a video, had ice cream, painted our nails, etc. She went right to bed without her binky and never asked for it again. For my son, we “accidentally left” his binkies when we were in another state visiting family. Really, we hid them in the glovebox of our car. It seemed like it took him a lot longer to fall asleep at night; he would lay in his room and talk to himself for an hour. But I wondered if that was how long it had always taken him to fall asleep; we just didn’t know it because he was quietly sucking on his binky. Funny thing happened though. About six months after we “left” his binkies in California, he was playing in our car at a softball game and found his binkies in the glovebox. He shouted “MY BINKIES!”, I shouted “OH SHOOT!” then ran over, grabbed them from him, and hid them in my husbands Jeep. Haha. He never asked for them back though.

  36. When our middle son turned 3 we told him that he was too old for pacifiers and if he wanted to be a big boy and go to the fair with us then he had to pack up all his pacifiers and say goodbye to them at the fair. So…he took once last ‘drag’ as we called it and threw them in the trash at the fair and said, “Bye-bye! I a big boy now.” Then we took him to WalMart and let him pick out a stuffed animal to sleep with in place of the binky. He still sleeps with that horse even today and he’s 9 years old.

  37. I am totally unqualified to comment, as we do not use Pacis. I’ve never really wanted to use them, but I will admit that in a few desperate moments, I have tried to get an infant to take one. This is one of those pick
    your poison/pick your pain situations. I choose my pain early, rather than later on this one. One less thing to get rid of if you never use it. But my kids don’t sleep great either. I would get rid of it BEFORE the next baby. My sister says she remembers stealing younger sister’s paci when she was SEVEN. I’ve also heard of MELTING the tip of the paci so it’s misshapen.

  38. Tami Griffith says:

    I have heard (and seen) that it works well to have the child help you sew the pacifier inside a teddy bear (like a build a bear), the they can have the pacifier as much as they want, just not in their mouth. :~)

  39. When I turned 3, my parents had me trade them my pacifier for a big girl toy (a red kite I’d been wanting). I assume they talked this up for a bit beforehand to prepare me for it. Mom says that come bedtime, I was ready to trade back! lol But at that point, they just told me it was gone.

    We haven’t made this transition yet. My older daughter didn’t use a paci, and the little one is almost three – so we’re getting there. I’m noticing, though, some signs of her moving that direction on her own. Emotionally, she isn’t really ready to give it up yet, but mentally, she’s getting there. We’re starting to hear things like, “I don’t really need this for ________,” whereas before it was always “I need my paci!!!”

  40. I was so tired of the pacifier ( lovingly nick named fire) addiction of our almost 3yr old. The 3 and 2 yr old were acting up on vacation in Denver at the mall. I warned them they would lose their favorite things if they did it again…and they did it again. I ripped the pacifier out of her mouth and chucked it in a gigantic trash bin…She screamed “Fire” to the top of her lungs the whole length of the mall and parking lot while people stared at us and my husband laughed. Although I wanted to crawl under a rock, she never asked for it again. Quick and parent embarrassing!

  41. Okay. I’ll just outright say it. Bribery. Ring Pops. They look like pacifiers, but they are candy. You can either have the pacifier today or the ring pop, but when the ring pop is gone, that is it for the day. They are something like 4 for$1 in bags at the dollar store or Walmart. By day 4 or 5 we could say “oh, what a big boy/girl. You don’t use a pacifier anymore. Big gir/boys don’t get pacifiers, they get candy.” Then by a week or so, we didn’t need to give the candy daily.

  42. My 18 month old was an addict. He called his pacifier his “yier” and even shorten that to “yie” – We tied his pacifiers to helium balloons and let them go up in the sky – it was “Yie in the Sky Day” and he never looked back. Occasionally when he would see a balloon in the sky he would ask about his “yie” – it worked really well. No lies involved and he let them go himself. Good luck!!

  43. Oh, how well do I know the panick-paci search! My bachelor brother-in-law was amazed one visit as all manner of siblings and both of us parents ransacked our house to fine any one of our many missing pacis.

    ALL of my 10 children were orally fixated! Those who didn’t do the pacifier thing, sucked a finger or thumb, which was very hard to wean. (One of them sucked her finger until she was 12, licking off yucky stuff we put on, etc.). So as soon as we see one of our babies find his finger or thumb to suck, we make sure to give him a pacifier, because they can be weaned off. When a child a pre-determined age (perhaps 2 1/2) we let him have it only for napping and sleeping. When he will be turning 3, with regularly talking about it beforehand, (“When you have your 3 yr. old birthday, you are going to be a big boy and throw your paci. in the garbage!) we have him throw it in the outside (yucky, irretrievable) garbage can. Then, for the next few nights, (around 5), I stay by his bedside and tell them stories at bedtime – for comfort’s sake.

    This has worked for my many pacifier addicts. I wouldn’t take the paci. away right around a new baby coming. I’d definitely wait a good six months or so, so that there is no connection with the new sibling and this mini trauma.

    Children, (people in general) are not usually positively inclined about changing habits, and so whenever we decide that a change needs to be made, (toilet training, sleeping through the night, etc.) we firmly decide that this is what we’re going to do, rather than “trying it and seeing” – potty training my first didn’t work when I was just “trying”, I had to make a firm decision that we weren’t doing diapers anymore. So I suggest deciding when you feel it is right, and then sticking to it.

  44. How about when mama *is* the pacifier? :(

  45. I have a pacie addict too. He is 4 years old, and the youngest of my 5 children. Only he and my oldest (now 15) took a pacifier. My daughter told me that they tasted funny when she was a little over two, right before her sister was born. I saved them in case she wanted one back if she saw her baby sister taking one. The new baby would not take one, and my oldest daughter never asked for it.
    My 4yo calls it his baba (not sure why), but over the years has gone from having it in his mouth at all times to only wanting it if I am holding him. He also plays with and sniffs my hair while sucking on the pacifier. When he gets down from my lap, he hands me the pacifier. He also takes it while I am lying down with him to go to sleep.
    My opinion–don’t stress about it. They will give it up when they are ready. If my child was attached to a blanket or something like that, I wouldn’t think of taking it away. So, I don’t plan on taking the pacifier away from my 4yo.

    I hope he doesn’t take it on his honeymoon! Ha!

  46. I had 6 children that were addicted to pacifiers. Their third birthday was my goal for quitting, although I think that would wait in your situation until the new baby is a couple months old. I think it’s good for them to get rid of it themselves, but to do it deliberatly. I would set a date in my mind, say a week in the future, and talk to the child about it. “In 7 days, we’re going to need to not use your pipe anymore”, then repeat that during the week. At least a couple of my kids ended up wanting to throw it away before that week was up. After they threw it away, I always expect crying before bed, but it’s funny, they never really did. They definetly have a harder time getting to sleep, but my girls asked for it again. (My boy was a different story, even months later he remembered.)
    One other rule that I give myself is to never give in once they throw it away. (I know there’s another one around here somewhere :)) I figure that if I do once, they will know that’s always a possibility.

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