Getting Rid of the Pacifier – Post Script

You may remember that I asked for your advice about getting rid of the pacifier of the two year old earlier this year. Well, we finally did the deed this week.

Our little Pearl Harbor baby was getting ready to turn three years old and I thought the time had come. I warned the other children that we were likely in for several days of wailing and whining and crying and tearing garments and wearing ashes upon heads.

My Madison suggested we try something we saw at Rocks in my Dryer when Shannon was trying to get rid of her daughter’s pacifier. Shannon concocted some fanciful story about baby squirrels needing pacifiers and not having any and wouldn’t it be great if there were a little girl who could donate her pacifiers to the poor baby squirrels?

I said that I guess we could try  that, but that we should go ahead and brace for the whole tearing garment scenario because she is  a Smockity child and Smockities are tenacious, if nothing else.

So we told her the whole sad, sad story of the poor baby squirrels and WHO, we wondered, could donate her pacifiers to those squirrels? What?! She would?! Why, that would be fantastic!

She ran, enthusiastically, to gather all of her pacifiers and we placed them carefully on a bird feeder and praised her for her generosity.

I prepared myself for the storm that would break at bedtime when there was no pacifier to comfort her.

Bedtime came, and she wanted her pacifier, and all the kids reminded her about the baby squirrels. We went out to look at the bird feeder, and sure enough, they were gone! The mama squirrel had taken her generous gift to her babies!

She was thrilled and skipped off to bed.

And I braced myself for the storm.

Which never happened!

That was four nights ago, and to my astonishment, the pacifiers have not been mentioned since!

She is pacifier free!

So, yeah, we invent stories about needy rodents and tell them to our children to serve our own purposes.

Don’t judge me.

This post is linked Works For Me Wednesday.

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  1. That is stinkin’ hilarious! I would have never thought it would of worked but I guess it shows what I know : ) Glad it went so well for y’all and thanks for the laugh!

  2. That is hilarious! I’m glad it worked so well. We did the whole “snipping off the end of it” thing, which worked surprisingly well for us. Maybe it’s us parents making more of it than there really is. Maybe.

  3. jules green says:

    I LOVE IT!! I’ve never ever heard of that, and wish I’d had, say about 8 years ago:) That’s awesome:) I’ll pass that one along if ya don’t mind:)

  4. Oh fantastic, Love it!!

  5. “several days of wailing and whining and crying and tearing garments and wearing ashes upon heads.”

    :-D
    Connie, you crack me up!
    I should stop reading your posts (and Kimberley’s and KimC’s) while sitting on the couch. I fall off it anyway. My 10mo daughter will think, that’s normal behaviour… laughing at a screen, falling off the couch and rolling on the floor…

  6. We let our kids (#6 due in May) use them to their heart’s content. At the age of 3 they can only use one for naps or night night. And we prep them that when they turn 4 they are done forever. So far that plan has worked well and been good enough for us.

    The pacies sure make things easier for some of our kids.

  7. Oh Connie, you crack me UP!!!

    I’m wondering what kind of rodent story I could come up with to get my 4yo to stop sucking her thumb . . .

  8. I might be trying that in less than a year! Thanks!

  9. That’s amazing! I wonder how we could donate my son’s thumb to the squirrels? Guess we’d have to amputate it, huh? I tried 5 or 6 different brands of pacis but he would take any of them… this thumb things not gonna be fun…

    • Kate, just an idea…My niece who is 4 has been sucking her thumb since she was a baby, and her parents have finally decided that the time has come to stop this…SOooo they tried painting or pouring nasty concotions upon the thumb…di it work? Of course not… So they tried using dentists and doctors to try and help her understand why it is bad…Did it work? sadly, no…. So as a last resort they attempted one last idea, the “Secret Signal” idea. First my sister told her daughter about the time she had to give up the habit of rubbing her ear, and that it was very hard for her. Then she told my niece that her mommy (Namely my mother) had played a game with her. They could be secret spies, and have super secret spy signals for eachother, and any time that my niece would put her thumb in her mouth…We could use the super secret spy signal and that would remind her that “spies dont suck thumbs”… This was their mission as spies, to stop thumb sucking and my niece was the only one who could do it. As a last hopeful stretch to this, my sister told my niece that if she completed this mission that spies get rewards, in this case it meant an all day mommy date just the two of them. It worked wonders and she has stopped the thumb sucking and has started helping her little sister with a super secret spy signal…So cute and I love this idea!

  10. That is so funny! My parents had a hard time breaking me from the bottle, so one day they told me that the garbage man took it….. I was NOT very fond of garbage men for a LONG time. I’m over it now though!

  11. That is hilarious!

  12. That is so funny! I am so glad to her success stories with the paci’s. I’m a little afraid that my son will still have his in his mouth on his wedding night!

  13. That is awesome!! ;) Love that it worked for you! We ended up snipping off the end of pacis until our DD couldn’t even hold them in her mouth! ha! She was quite stubborn!!

  14. I’m afraid my toddler will start stealing his little sisters when I take his away. Have you had any problems with that?

  15. We took a similar spin for my son when he was about to turn 3. It was right before Christmas, and we talked about little babies that did not have Nuk’s. We left all of his Nuk’s out on a plate for Santa, and a tote for Santa to give them to the little babies who didn’t have any Nuk’s. Same here, I waited for the storm. He even had the stomach flu all night on Christmas Eve. It never came. He asked once or twice, and we reminded him where his Nuk’s were. In the moring, Santa left him a little present on the plate thanking him for his generosity. It was a little taggie blankie he coudl sleep with instead. It was never an issue, and he was addicted. My 2yo DD needs to give up her Nuk’s now, I am only hoping it goes as easy, she is very stubburn!!

  16. awesome I will share this with my daughter who so wants to break her daughter from the pacifier

  17. I would have been dreading it just like that. I’m so thankful we haven’t had any paci babies yet. 2 thumb suckers, 1 tongue sucker (that was the best!), and 1 who only pops the thumb in when she’s put in her crib.
    I do have 1 who treats his spoon like a pacifier when he starts day-dreaming at the table. {sigh}

  18. That is soooo funny! But I have a similar problem to some of the other commenters… ‘commenter’?? commentator?? anyway, where was I? Oh yes – a daughter who’s a thumb-sucker. And she’s a b-i-g girl now (a young lady to some, but I’ll hide her embarrassment and not reveal her age!).
    Not sure stories of any description will work. And amputation may not go down too well!
    Good for you, though. Well done!

    • @Anne,

      Anne,

      Don’t give up on your daughter just yet. I am not ashamed to admit that I sucked my thumb, throughout the day and at night, every night until I was fourteen (and then intermittently until I was sixteen). She will outgrow it eventually. Maybe you should investigate why she does it? I had some emotional problems and needed comforting. Anywho, just wanted to offer my two cents.

    • @Anne, Ginger, just an idea…My niece who is 4 has been sucking her thumb since she was a baby, and her parents have finally decided that the time has come to stop this…SOooo they tried painting or pouring nasty concotions upon the thumb…di it work? Of course not… So they tried using dentists and doctors to try and help her understand why it is bad…Did it work? sadly, no…. So as a last resort they attempted one last idea, the “Secret Signal” idea. First my sister told her daughter about the time she had to give up the habit of rubbing her ear, and that it was very hard for her. Then she told my niece that her mommy (Namely my mother) had played a game with her. They could be secret spies, and have super secret spy signals for eachother, and any time that my niece would put her thumb in her mouth…We could use the super secret spy signal and that would remind her that “spies dont suck thumbs”… This was their mission as spies, to stop thumb sucking and my niece was the only one who could do it. As a last hopeful stretch to this, my sister told my niece that if she completed this mission that spies get rewards, in this case it meant an all day mommy date just the two of them. It worked wonders and she has stopped the thumb sucking and has started helping her little sister with a super secret spy signal…I wish you the best of luck with your own little Princess!

    • @Anne, my sister sucked her thumb openly until 2nd grade, and then only at home until 5th grade, and then only at night for another year, and then when ever she was stressed until she went to college. We talked not long ago and she said she did stop in college, kinda hard to hide from a room mate! She said she did it when she felt stressed and it gave her some comfort. Good luck!

  19. Martha H. says:

    We had the Binky Fairy come after her nap on my daughter’s 3rd birthday. She got a color book, crayons, and a thank you note. She never looked back!

  20. Love it! Love your blog! It makes me smile!

  21. Hilarious! Apparently our family invents pretend needy babies and pack of ravenous domesticated animals. When my oldest daughter was 2, I told her we were “mailing” them to some other baby who needed them. She bought it until her Dad (thinking he was a comic) told her, “No, we didn’t mail them. A wild pack of dogs came in the house while you were sleeping and took all the pacis” I could have about shot him. And no, we still don’t own a dog, but we are paci-free.

  22. So how can you make this work for thumbsucking? Not sure leaving the thumb on the bird feeder would work!?

    • @Vicki, Vicki,just an idea…My niece who is 4 has been sucking her thumb since she was a baby, and her parents have finally decided that the time has come to stop this…SOooo they tried painting or pouring nasty concotions upon the thumb…di it work? Of course not… So they tried using dentists and doctors to try and help her understand why it is bad…Did it work? sadly, no…. So as a last resort they attempted one last idea, the “Secret Signal” idea. First my sister told her daughter about the time she had to give up the habit of rubbing her ear, and that it was very hard for her. Then she told my niece that her mommy (Namely my mother) had played a game with her. They could be secret spies, and have super secret spy signals for eachother, and any time that my niece would put her thumb in her mouth…We could use the super secret spy signal and that would remind her that “spies dont suck thumbs”… This was their mission as spies, to stop thumb sucking and my niece was the only one who could do it. As a last hopeful stretch to this, my sister told my niece that if she completed this mission that spies get rewards, in this case it meant an all day mommy date just the two of them. It worked wonders and she has stopped the thumb sucking and has started helping her little sister with a super secret spy signal…Hope this helped:D

  23. Just found your blog and love! Thanks for sharing this story! I laughed until I cried!

  24. Okay……what about weaning from the breast? My little one just turned 2 and a half and she still has to nurse to fall asleep! I’m a short lady and it’s kinda hard to balance a long lanky toddler on my lap. Plus I have to become a contortionist to nurse her lying down! There’s no boobie fairie, amputation just isn’t for me (It’d be kinda awkward, I got a one sided nurser) I also can’t get pregnant and I’m pretty convinced it has a lot to do with nursing often: I didn’t get preggers with her until I weaned her sister at almost 2 and a half. Anyways, kind of a related subject, so input would be nice. Also, the binky booger came and stole all the binkies from our house. Sadly, even though we filled out a police report, the culprit was never apprehended and the property in question was never recovered!

    • Hmmmmm…I finally cut mine off at 16 months, but he still has his paci to fall asleep, and he’s 3 1/2. It took mine until 18 months to finally sleep through the night on a regular basis. I knew he wouldn’t sleep through the night until I cut him off. I read a fabulous book called the No Cry Sleep Solution. That helped us a lot! My youngest NEEDS a nap, and big brother stopped napping the day we took his paci’s away, so I am leaving the little one with them until he stops napping! It lives in his bed, and he ONLY gets it at nap and bed. I normally falls out during the night and from what I have read, the mouth/jaw damage that it does tends to correct itself if dropped by age 5. Or so that is what I am banking on! :D

  25. Sandy Floyd says:

    @ Heather I read the same book and loved it. Very gentle loving ways to help your child sleep. The cry it out never work for my daughter.
    We did the Santa thing with her paci too. She was almost 3. She was down to the last one and only got it at naptime and bedtime. We told her there were babies that needed it more and Santa would give it to one for her. So we went to the mall with the paci in a baggie and gave it to Santa ( after I explained to the ‘elf’ helping what we were doing). Worked like a charm! Now it’s time to work on my little man,18 mo, before baby 3 comes in March.

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