Thank you to Tiana for this guest post!
Unemployment can put intense pressure on a marriage. Not so long ago, during a time when my husband was without a job, I learned (sometimes the hard way) that there are a few things a man needs from his wife during a layoff–and a few things that he doesn’t.
He Doesn’t Need Nagging, He Needs Respect
“A continual dripping on a rainy day and a quarrelsome wife are alike; to restrain her is to restrain the wind or to grasp oil in one’s right hand.” Proverbs 27:15-16
He Doesn’t Need Criticism—He Needs Encouragement
“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” Ephesians 4:29
He Doesn’t Need You to Do His Job—He Needs You to Keep Doing Yours
“She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:” Proverbs 31:27-28
He Doesn’t Need a Depressed Wife—He Needs a Hopeful Wife
“Why are you cast down, O my soul, and why are you in turmoil within me? Hope in God; for I shall again praise him, my salvation and my God.” Psalm 43:5
He Doesn’t Need Complaining—He Needs Contentment
“Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you.’” Hebrews 13:5
He Doesn’t Need You to “Fix It”—He Needs You to be His Helpmeet
“The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:11-12
He Doesn’t Need You to Worry—He Needs You to Trust in God
“Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:31-33
Will you give your husband what he needs today?
Tiana Krenz is blessed to be wife to Christopher and mother to four young children. With God’s help, she is learning more about what it means to be a godly wife, mother, and homemaker each day. Visit her at God Made, Home Grown, and connect with her on Twitter and Facebook .