My husband was furiously flipping channels, because he’s a man and that’s what he does, when he paused for a moment on your show.
We both watched as you were in the middle of counseling a young couple, 29 and 30 years old, who wondered if they could afford to have the wife quit her job and have another baby.
It’s not that we expected you to actually encourage them to make cutbacks and sacrifice whatever was necessary to have the mother home with her child. I mean that would be NUTS, right?
But we were absolutely dumbfounded when you told them that their expenses would go up $700-1000 each month due to necessary baby items, like “diapers and this and that.” (Diapers were the only actual expenses you came up with.)
Diapers? $700? A MONTH??? Really?
Because I buy diapers and I can pretty much guarantee they don’t cost that much, at least here on Planet Earth, where I shop.
And neither do all the other baby related expenses all added up, even if we went hog wild and bought Pampers without a coupon.
You told the couple “sorry, you can’t afford it,” and there was “no way possible” for their plan to work.
No possible way? Really?
Suze, pardon me for saying so, but I don’t think you know what you are talking about here.
You may not be aware of this, but babies are not that expensive, especially when it is not the first.
You see, families who are adding a second, third, or (insert freakishly high ordinal number here) child can actually re-use car seats, high chairs, baby beds, clothes, and all of the other stuff they spent way too much money on for the first kid.
If they are really interested in cutting expenses, they could breastfeed, cloth diaper, and skip preschool. Besides the very nominal start up cost of buying the cloth diapers, all those things are FREE.
I know. It’s a radical thought.
But, it can be done. A family can actually sacrifice luxuries for a greater cause. And for far, far less than $700 a month.
Babies take time. They take patience. And sacrifice. Lots of it. But not a lot of money.
I would wager that an additional baby can be added to a frugal-minded family for less than $70 a month. And if you’ve got God on your side, He will make a way. There are lots of people just like me who do the “impossible” every day.
I think you were way off base with that young, disappointed couple. And I think you should check out diaper prices next time you hit the local discount chain.
Please, see my follow-up post “Can We Afford Another Baby?”.