I once heard that whenever people are going through a difficult time, they get into the mindset that “for ever and ever everything will be this difficult.”
What interested me when I heard about this was that the age and circumstance of the person made no difference in the thought process. Troubled teens, new mothers of colicky babies, elderly widows with health issues. In the middle of their distress they each believed, “Things will never change. My life will always be this way.”
I remember being a young(ish) mom of a certain hyperactive, strong-willed, difficult child.
Child made everyday events, like going to the grocery store a challenge. Child once so traumatized the teen-aged babysitter by biting her, that Mr. Smockity and I were called by the babysitter’s parents to have a meeting about how Child’s behavior had affected their family. When I was in the hospital during an entire month of pre-term labor, and we had a friend (Hi, Julie!) watching the kids while Mr. Smockity worked, Child would reportedly run out the door and away from her in an attempt to avoid consequences for disobedience. Child would scream and cry during Bible class so that people would shake their heads and ask, “Oh, you’re still having trouble with Child?”
I used to think, “What am I going to do about Child??? Child is always going to be difficult. Things will never change.”
But things did change.
For one thing, I became a better parent. And for another thing, Child grew and matured and it turned out that some of my words and admonitions and direction actually stuck in that hard headed noggin.
Child is now a perfectly nice, human being. Child isn’t perfect, but neither am I, so we’re calling it even.
People who know us now who didn’t know us then would never suspect Child used to act that way.
My message to you if you are going through a difficult time is, hang in there. It won’t always be this difficult. Things will get better. The sun’ll come out tomorrow. Bet your bottom dollar.