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How Do Large Families Handle Older Children Disciplining the Younger Children?

Posted By Smockity Frocks On August 2, 2012 @ 6:09 am In 4 Moms,Parenting | 8 Comments

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The 4 Moms of 35+ Kids [3] are discussing bossy older siblings, or how we handle older children disciplining younger children.

In our family, the oldest two children are teens, and getting closer each day to adulthood. We hope to be training them up to be competent adults, and part of that is being able to wrangle little ones.

We often give our teens the authority to direct, correct, and manage the younger children, and we give the younger children explicit directions that they are to obey them.

Of course, we have discussed at length with the teens what it means to be fair and patient and not to abuse the power one is given.

The tricky part here is when Mom or Dad is available to direct, correct, and manage and yet the teen usurps our thrones, so to speak. There have been occasions when we have had to tell the teens, “When Mom is available to discipline, you may not have that authority. Don’t try to do my job for me.”

Also delicate is knowing at what point the older children have the maturity to determine the best way to manage the younger ones. If you have ever chosen a babysitter for your children, this is much the same. You must judge whether the teen has the decision making skills and the air of authority to carry off the job of keeping control of little ones.

We generally give this authority only to our children who are 12 years old or older. Ironically, just today my eight year old asked, “When am I going to be old enough to make her (the 4yo) mind me?!” I told her that she was not old enough yet to be in charge of her little sister, but one day she would be grown up enough to know what is best for 4 year olds.

Each child is different in their capabilities, temperaments, and maturity levels, so the parent must be careful and not give too much responsibility too soon.

Handing this responsibility to teens too often can also be a source of exasperation if it is a result of lazy parenting. Don’t exasperate your older children because you expect them to do what you don’t want to get up and do yourself.

What about you? How do you handle older children disciplining younger children?

Be sure to see what the rest of my 4 Moms team has to say on this topic!


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