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 The 4 Moms of 35+ Kids are answering questions again this week.

In order to mix it up a bit, and because I have a bur in my saddle about this, instead of answering reader email questions, I thought I would answer some of the questions that were addressed to our children recently.

I’ll be answering for them.

Aren’t you sad that you aren’t able to socialize with other people?

No.

They interact with other people regularly, and if I do say so myself, they are quite skilled at it. It is not uncommon for them to converse at length with someone 8 times their own age as well as children who are their own age and younger children.

They go to birthday parties, purchase candy at the grocery store in their own check out lane, participate in team sports, go to church multiple times every week, and join in on our adult Bible study every Thursday evening.

If you really mean, “Don’t you feel sorry that you aren’t forced to remain in a building with hundreds of other youngsters who were born the same year for 8 hours every day?” then I would say that we are all very happy they are not bound by those restrictions.

Do you have any friends?

Yes.

They have local friends, faraway friends, Facebook friends, longtime friends, and new friends. They have friends they met at camp, friends at church, homeschool friends, soccer friends, pen pal friends, old friends, young friends, and public school friends.

If you really mean, “Are all your friends with you 8 hours every day and were you born the same year as all your friends?” then the answer is no.

Aren’t you socially awkward?

No.

Some are introverts and some are extroverts. Some are shy and some are gregarious. Some are quiet and some are rowdy. Some are nervous in new situations and some take charge in them. They are each unique and they are children, still learning how to handle situations the world presents.

If you really mean, “Why don’t you act like the other children your age standing to themselves in that group over there?” that is because they are busy talking to people from generations other than their own and don’t feel restricted to only speak and interact with children their own age.

Are you being homeschooled so you will be smarter than the rest of us?

No.

They are being homeschooled because their father and I have spent many hours in prayer and research in coming to this decision. They are being homeschooled because we, their parents, want to be personally responsible for their education, their training, and their morality. They are being homeschooled because we don’t want to “be conformed to this world”. (Romans 12:2)

If you really mean, “Why are you smarter than some other kids your age?” then the answer is that is just one of the many benefits of individual instruction, independent study, and freedom to explore interests.

And now I would like address a concern about these kinds of questions.

I do realize that our family has chosen a different path of education from most of the general public. I realize that it may be seen as a curiosity, unusual, or odd. I am fine with questions about our decision to homeschool and am happy to explain how we came to it.

What I am not fine with is when these questions are addressed to our children when they are not with us by someone much older who seems to be presenting them in a way that is accusatory or suspicious in nature.

If you have questions or concerns about the education and opportunities my children are getting, I suggest you take some time to observe them. See how they can speak with you intelligibly? See how they are not intimidated to speak to you even though you are not from their generation? See how they are respectful and polite even though your questions are intrusive and boorish?

Now, assure yourself that they are fine and don’t corner them for any such inquisition again.

Alrighty then! Go and see what questions the rest of The 4 Moms of 35+ Kids answered. Don’t worry! They aren’t quite as cranky as I am this week.

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  1. Thank you Connie!

    Really, I am SO sick of people thinking that my children are starved for social interaction and deprived of every wonderful opportunity in life because we homeschool. In reality, it is just the opposite! Our lives are SO much richer than I could have ever imagined emotionally,spiritually, academically, mentally, and physically since we brought our kids home to home educate.

    A question that left me speechless: “Don’t you have to be inside between the hours of 9am and 2pm?”

    No! But if we did that, we would miss out on Gymnastics Day and group fieldtrips with our friends, nature classes at the local nature center, field trips to museums and local history landmarks when it’s not so busy, and on and on and on.

  2. Well said and of course another great blog post! I’ll be sharing this one for sure!

  3. What amazes me is that people would have the audacity to ask these kinds of questions no matter what their concerns area. I thought people in society had tact and such, but I guess I was wrong.

    I can understand people having concerns about socialization of a home schooled kid, especially the non-larger families. IE I think a larger family would make more effort to socialize their children and they are somewhat socialized just having that many siblings. My son who does his school online at the moment, does socialize with people older than him and does it very well, I might add. But now after doing online schooling for about 3 years, he is afraid of socializing with his own age group, because they seem so immature to him. The thought of maybe having to do a regular high school next year scares him a bit, when he used to be the most social person I know. But in the teen years, things do change some too. And we should have made sure our son socialized more with his own age group.

  4. You go, girl! Love it!

  5. Mama Mirage says:

    Woohoo! Go Connie!!

  6. People used to do this to my mom when she was homeschooling me– sometimes asking the question or saying something rude to me right in front of her! Why people feel the need to say things that imply “you’ll rebel someday” or “your parents are cheating you out of ____” I don’t know. I never feel like I have the right to say that to a public school child!
    When I was older I got questions like “don’t you have a boyfriend?”
    “what about the prom?” (what about it?)
    “why don’t you go to work at walmart?”
    Sad to say, rude questions can create doubts in the minds of some kids. I guess the best I can do for my own children is to prepare them for this cross-examination so they can see it coming.
    I really enjoyed your post:)

  7. Well said!

  8. Go Connie, go Connie, go Connie…said in my BEST cheerleader voice!!!!

  9. Amen and amen! Funny that if we asked similar questions to non-homeschoolers *they* would be offended, but we are supposed to just smile and be gracious when they are asked of us. Of course I try to answer in the nicest possible way, but it gets weary at times.

    Something funny that happened yesterday (not really relating to the post, but something awkward that was said in public) … my oldest daughter (13) was holding baby (he’s 11 months) and this cute little old lady came up to them, held out her hand to him and said “Shake? Shake?”. It was all my daughter could do to not laugh and say “No, but he can roll over and sit really well!” — Oh the things people say!

  10. Dear Connie, this post made me smile! Not for what your kids have to put up with, but that you can address the whole thing with humour still. We’ve been homsechooling a couple of years now and we get these questions too, especially in England where it’s even less common than in the US. Sometimes it’s hard to be gracious! So I’m glad for your encouragement, and I’m even starting to enjoy answering the questions a tiny bit. Mind if I send any hostiles over to your back yard though???

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