It is time once again for questions and answers. The questions are from you and the answers are from 4 Moms of 35+ Kids. And you, if you would like to chime in below in the comments. Please, do, if you have something to add!
How do you deal with personal space issues with a 4 year old boy? — meaning that he is always touching other people or being far too close to their face when talking to them (and there is no eye sight or hearing issues).
I have not ever felt like we have this problem, but maybe we do and my friends are just waiting for me to peel my kids off them!
I have heard parents remind a child of his “bubble”. The idea was to illustrate personal space with the concept of being inside of a bubble that extends all around you at arms length. No one wants someone to come inside the bubble unless invited.
If someone invites you to hug them, they will usually put their arms out. Otherwise, they most likely do not want you in their bubble. “Remember your bubble,” was the gentle reminder I heard.
We have filled our mini van with kids. Where did you find your large vans? Do you know life expectancy of the big vans?
When we had no more available seats left in our Suburban and I was expecting our seventh baby, my husband contacted a friend who owned a used car dealership. He told his friend we were looking for a used 15 passenger van with low mileage, and the friend found one that had been used as an airport shuttle.
We kept waiting for it to be delivered, as promised, to our small town car dealership from the big city airport. We even planned a fun vacation half way across the country, and we were giddy with the thought of how roomy our new ride would be!
And then the week of our vacation arrived and… there was still no van! (Here is the story of that very smooshed trip.)
Our van is a 2001 model and has never given us a lick of trouble.
We keep the rear bench seat out so we will have cargo space. If all the seats are in, there is absolutely NO room for groceries or strollers. This still gives us 11 seats, and if we need more, we put that bench back in.
One thing to be aware of, though, is that since they have such a high center of gravity, the rollover rate is higher than with a traditional vehicle. Extra caution is needed when driving them.
How do you handle laziness or slow working? My daughter, 7, was told to clean her room today. It is a tiny room. It took her literally 4 hours to finish. I don’t know what to do anymore!
Is she playing in her room instead of cleaning it?
It sounds like you need to add an incentive to finish in a reasonable time. What about scheduling game time in one hour? Or announcing that at a certain time, anyone who is finished will be going out for ice cream? Or “movie time” starts in an hour and popcorn will only be passed out before the movie begins?
In this video on scheduling chores, I show our schedule and illustrate how our children have free time only after their work is completed. They know that if they dawdle, they are wasting the time they could be doing what they like better than the chore.