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Letting Children Develop at Their Own Pace

If you have read here long, you know that I, like most parents, get excited when one of my children reaches a milestone. I have posted videos of a 5 year old reading scriptures from her journal, doing multiplication in her head, and riding a bike with no training wheels. I have posted when my 18 year old received a full academic, college scholarship.

It’s hard not to want everyone to celebrate with you when a child masters a difficult skill or achieves a major accomplishment.

The thing is, as may be the case with you, some of my children have come to competence in these skills at a much later age than others.

And that’s okay.

Of course, I don’t post a video when an 8 year old is finally sounding out words with no help from me or is still struggling with the 2 wheel bike, or when one of the teens is doing Algebra 1 for the second year.

Just because a child is lagging behind her siblings or even behind all your friends’ children doesn’t necessarily mean there is anything wrong. It could mean you need to knuckle down on math time and make sure the work is really being done. But it also could mean that your child is simply a late bloomer and needs extra time to practice the skill.

Give each child plenty of space to develop at his or her own pace, whether that is ahead of his peers or behind.

Celebrate your child’s milestones, whether they come early, right on schedule, or late enough that you are biting your nails wondering if they’ll ever get it.

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  1. Amen! As the mom to 2 late bloomers, it’s easy to feel bad in the homeschooling world where others are graduating their kids at 16. I’m over here wondering if we’ll fit it al in by graduation period! But I would say that when my very nearly 8 year old (about 2 weeks shy of her birthday) started reading, it was VERY exciting!!!

  2. Really needed to hear this! Thanks for the reminder!

  3. Such a helpful post, and a relief to read – thank you! :) I still feel fairly new to homeschooling, though we’ve always done it. I have 6 children and a 7th on the way, and my eldest is only 8 so I have only really homeschooled (academically speaking) two children so far. My 8-year-old took to reading like a duck to water and reads at a teenage level now – that was a real confidence booster to a new homeschooling mama! But my 7-year-old still can’t read despite effort (which I’ve stopped for now), or write with any understanding of what he’s doing other than copying squiggles that he can’t connect with, and struggles with the simplest of maths concepts. If he was my eldest child I would be terrified that I was just reeeeeally bad at this! But I have my eldest doing well, so… I am slightly despairing over why he can’t learn, and when he ever will, BUT posts like this really help! :) Thank you!!

  4. So very true. When people question why my Homeschooled daughter is ahead in some things and “behind” public school children in other areas, I quickly remind them that not everyone, even adults, are stamped out from cookie cutters. We all have our strengths and weakness, our interests and dislikes, and that we try to focus on the positive.
    Great post.

  5. So true!! My first 2 kids, boys, were super intelligent and excelled at everything they did.
    Then, my third, a girl, could not retain any math concept even if I paid her a gazillion dollars.
    And to be positive that I learned the lesson He wanted to teach me, God saw fit that my fourth child did not read until he was 9 yrs old.
    Ten kids now, and every one is different. Some read early, like number 8 who taught himself at early age 5 and never looked back.
    Or number 7, who read at almost age 10.

    I’ve let go of a ton of expectations over the years. The kids are all gifted in their own ways. Hey, maybe he can’t read War and Peace, but have you SEEN the treehouse he designed and built??

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