The 4 Moms of 35+ Kids are answering questions about bedroom arrangements, family meetings, and church camp.
Here are the questions we got from readers on our 4 Moms Facebook page.
Some of you have all girls and one boy. What age does he get his own room?
Our only boy is now 16 and has his own room, but he has occasionally shared a room with a sister.
When he was 5 years old, there was a short period of time that he shared with Madison, our oldest and his closest sibling in age.
Then when he was 11 years old, he shared a room with his baby sister, Emelyn, who he is still very close to today.
Ideally, a boy would not share a room with a sister, but having an only boy and 7 sisters presents a special challenge. We are blessed now to have plenty of space to give him his own room, but when we didn’t we made do the best we could.
Do you conduct family meetings? If so, how do you structure them?
We do have family meetings, but not on a regular schedule. When we are going on vacation, as we will be soon, and need to talk about travel arrangements and logistics, or as we are starting a new school year, or if we have a special announcement to make we will call a family meeting.
It usually goes something like this:
Mom and Dad: Everyone come to the dining room table. We have some things to talk to you about.
Random Kid: You’re pregnant again?!
Me: No, I’m not pregnant. We need to talk about packing for vacation.
Kids: (disappointed) Awwww!
I would say we find a need to call family meetings once every couple of months, but we would be fine with having them more or less, as needed.
Since we eat dinner together around the table, we do a lot of informal meeting anyway.
Do you do sleepaway camp? (You know, like the week long Christian camp thing kids go on with their youth groups.) If you do, at what ages? If you don’t, why not?
Once our kids approach the age of 12 or 13, we consider whether they are mature enough to spend a week away from us at church camp. We have allowed some to go earlier than others, and we have revoked the privelege of going to camp if a lack of making good decisions at home is seen.
We like that our children who go to camp are there with siblings who will gladly rat out any mischief or disrespect. Thankfully, this has never had to be reported to us.
Now, be sure to see what questions are being answered by the rest of my 4 Moms team.