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Why I Make Sure Things Aren’t Fair For My Kids

Posted By Smockity Frocks On May 30, 2014 @ 11:08 am In Parenting | 8 Comments

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Why I make sure things aren't fair for my kids

 

Why I make sure things aren't fair for my kids

Recently I took these 2 for a full day of fun at Six Flags Over Texas.

Smockity Kids

The rest of my 8 children stayed home.

It wasn’t a special occasion. And the other 6 kids didn’t whine or question me about why I wasn’t taking everyone.

Here is the WHY and HOW of what I do.

Why I Make Sure Things Aren’t Fair For My Kids

  • I want my children to have time with me when they aren’t with all the other siblings.
  • I want my children to know that sometimes it is their turn to get special attention and sometimes it is someone else’s turn.
  • I want my children to understand that every single situation in life will not always work in their favor.
  • I want my children to practice postponing gratification.
  • I want my children to practice being happy when others are the center of attention.

How I Make Sure Things Aren’t Fair For My Kids

  • When it is a child’s birthday month and half-birthday month, he or she gets a special day with Mom [2]. One sibling may be invited if the birthday child chooses. The birthday child may choose up to 3 activities (within reason) for our special day.
  • Occasionally when the whole family is out, I may buy one child new shoes, or a new backpack, or another needed item.
  • I take a different child with me [3] each time I go on errands.

Do your children understand and accept that sometimes things aren’t “fair”? You will be doing them (and their future families) a huge favor if they come to grips with this before adulthood!

See also my thoughts on “10 Signs Your Child Might Be Spoiled And What To Do About It [4].”


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[2] he or she gets a special day with Mom: http://www.smockityfrocks.com/2009/11/girls-night-out-part-duex.html

[3] take a different child with me: http://www.smockityfrocks.com/2013/09/taking-kids-on-errands.html

[4] 10 Signs Your Child Might Be Spoiled And What To Do About It: http://www.smockityfrocks.com/2012/07/10-signs-your-child-might-be-spoiled-and-what-to-do-about-it.html

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