Occasionally when people find out we homeschool , they begin to rattle off all the reasons they would homeschool, really they would, if only they had the time/patience/money/whatever.
And sometimes when people find out we have 8 children , I see them get antsy, and they tell me, somewhat sheepishly, all the reasons they don’t have a large family.
The same thing used to happen when I would breastfeed my babies.
I usually just listen and smile, but what I really want to say is this:
Relax. I’m not judging you.
I don’t have the spare time to find out about all the many decisions and all the many reasons you made the decisions you have made for your children and your family.
And even if I did have the time to learn about those, I wouldn’t have the mental energy to invest in figuring out whether those are good choices or bad choices for you and your family and your particular set of circumstances.
If you think I looked at you funny, it’s probably because I was trying to remember whether or not I turned on the CrockPot before I left home. And how much longer we can last with that one roll of toilet paper. And should I risk hoping it lasts through the night until tomorrow? Or go ahead and drag all the kids into the store to get some more?
Because frankly just trying to keep my own family from going off the rails is all-consuming for me.
Plus, at this point in my parenting journey, I realize that sometimes God has lessons to teach us regardless of whether we have made all the “right” decisions or not.
And I am fully aware that breastfed, homeschooled, children from large families succumb to diseases and drugs and teen pregnancy and divorce and a myriad of other problems none of us wants to face.
See, I don’t believe that making all the “right” choices inoculates me or my children from the hardships of this world. Neither do I believe that different choices are the path to doom.
And I’m not judging you for making different choices.
I’m just trying to keep my own Crazy Train on the tracks.
I bet you are, too.
Let’s do it together, sister.