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25 Ways to Teach Your Child to Have an Attitude of Entitlement

Would you like your child to feel that he is more revered than everyone else in the universe? Would you like him to demand preferential treatment? To believe he is a speshul snowflake, deserving of speshul status?

Easy! Follow these simple tips!

1. Give him his own present whenever anyone else gets one.

Brother’s birthday? He gets a present too. Best friend’s baby shower? He gets a present too. No one is ever more special than Li’l Junior!

2. Fix him a special meal when he doesn’t like what you prepared for the family.

You prepared spaghetti for dinner, but it makes him whine? Make him his own plate of food. Be sure to ask what he would like instead.

3. Encourage false talent.

Your kid can’t carry a tune in a bucket? Disregard that and demand that he is the lead in the Christmas musical.

4. Buy him a small gift or token whenever you go to the store.

He must feel that he is always deserving of gifts.

5. Allow him to attend the birthday party that the older sibling was invited to.

Be sure to ask for a party favor for him too.

6. When throwing a tantrum, the best way to stop it is giving him the candy he wanted but you originally denied.

Curtail this behavior by not denying his requests. Ever.

7. Blame everyone and everything else for a fault or failure.

Didn’t finish homework? The teacher gave too much and brother was too loud so she couldn’t focus. Lost a friend? Wasn’t worth having if they couldn’t see past the rude/arrogant/unfair behavior to the wonderful person she REALLY is.

8. Always do for him what he can do for himself.

If he asks for a drink while you are cooking dinner, stop what you are doing to get it for him, even though he is perfectly capable of getting it himself.

9. Never make her clean up her own messes.

She tires easily, you know.

10. Don’t follow through on consequences, and often make idle threats.

11. Force other children to give over their toys to him.

Whether they were playing with it at the time is irrelevant.

12. Acknowledge him when he interrupts a conversation to show him that what he says is more important than what you were listening to.

13. Always take his side when any other adult calls him out for a disciplinary issue.

Alternately, hand him excuse after excuse as to why he “can’t help” his behavior.

14. Don’t allow him to face disappointment.

He missed the deadline for turning in the extra credit that qualifies him for a special prize? Put the finishing touches on it, and drive it up to the school yourself.

15. Make sure everyone on his team gets a trophy the same size as the team who won first place.

16. Don’t ever make him wait to be served.

You don’t want him to become hungry. That makes him cranky.

17. Don’t make him serve others.

This will only make him feel that others could possibly be more deserving than he is.

18. Always say “please” in a begging tone when requesting anything of him.

If he refuses, let it go immediately.

19. Whenever a classmate or friend gets a new toy, run right out and get your child one too.

Make sure it is the newest model.

20. Never, ever criticize his efforts or let him know you expect him to try harder at something.

Pretending not to notice half-hearted attempts is best.

21. Overpraise everything she does, whether it is excellent or not.

You can barely read the essay she wrote for English class? Tell her how creative she is at spelling!

22. Always stop what you are doing whenever she addresses you.

Never make her wait until you are through with a task.

23. Always excuse bad behavior.

“He was probably hungry. The low blood sugar makes him cranky,” is a good standby.

24. Never make him answer for his own poor choices.

Step in to explain for him.

25. Go into debt buying a new car when he turns 16.

Make sure it is the model with the usb port for charging his iPhone.

By following these simple steps consistently you will soon have a child who believes his needs and wishes are superior to the needs and wishes of those around him!

Now, go give your little narcissist a hug. And a prize. Preferably a toy.

If you liked this post, you may also like “10 Signs Your Child is Spoiled and What to do About it.”

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Comments

  1. This is great!!

  2. KATENA DYSER says:

    My husband gets mad when I say this was his invitation and his day he needs to be celebrated. No one else. Great article!!!

  3. Sumer Doherty says:

    Nicely done.

  4. I should check and find out if my boyfriend was raised like this. He sure is obnoxiously entitled. :/

  5. Love this list. I am philosophically 100% in agreement with every. single. thing. on this list, but am I the only one who finds it hard when they’re home all day with three (almost four) kids five-and-under? I usually don’t slip on the obvious, handing over treats kind. What I’m finding tougher is, for instance, when the 3yo whimpers for the radio to be turned up while I’m in the middle of the conversation with another kid/my husband. I totally don’t intend to give in to whining…but sometimes it’s like I’m multi-tasking so fast I don’t realize that 4th thing I’m doing is enabling!

  6. I have only a 2-almost 3 year old, so some don’t yet apply. It’s a good list to prep me for some things to come. #12 and #22 hit me hard. I somehow think it will be easier if I just pander to him and then can get on with my other task/conversation. I needed this wake-up call to show I’m just encouraging it to happen more often.

  7. I agree 100% with most of what you said and was totally with you until I got to 23 where you discriminate against medically challenged people. I have worked with many people who, when faced with a sudden blood glucose level drop or surge become temporarily out of sorts, agitated or worse. My own son suffers from random life threatening BG plummets due to a liver disorder that are corrected by eating. While his body is wheeling, he has become “cranky” and out of sorts. I watched my Dad go through this same scenario many times during his last year of life from his diabetes. Eating DOES make them feel better. Often after eating something and getting his BG level back up, he is back to his normal cheerful self and doesn’t even have the memory of his meltdown. I watch people make excuses for kids behavior all the time but lets not lump legitimate reasons with excuses. It is hard enough to get through these episodes and act quickly enough to save his life (the cranky or unreasonable behavior is often the first sign that there is a serious problem developing that without intervention could become life threatening very quickly) without having to deal with the judgmental bigotry of those in witness. When I have explained what was going on, I have all too often got the condescending nodding smiles from people who remain ignorant to the reality of the situation and just figure my husband and I are “making excuses”. Even adults tend to snap and react badly in a similar medical state. It is true that we have a parenting crisis in this country– or lack of it– but that doesn’t excuse increasing the heartache of both the children and the parents by lumping a real situation with irresponsible choices.

    • I agree with Meg 100%. It is ignorant to assume poor parenting when a parent recognizes hypoglycemia and reacts appropriately. Otherwise, everything else makes sense.

    • I think Connie may be referencing those of us with children who do not have those kind of medical conditions. I will admit to using the phrase “His blood sugar is a bit low” to excuse poor behavior when I know he does NOT have blood sugar issues. It was simply my unwillingness to teach him to wait and that he is not going to DIE of hunger in the next 5 minutes. (Can you tell my son can be a bit dramatic?)

      Medically induced poor behavior is an entirely different topic!

    • This article is not talking about kids with medical problems etc. It is talking about those who have no excuse or reason for their bad behaviour.

    • I agree with the others… just like many (including this one) don’t apply to very young children, because they can’t control themselves. But I would talk to your son about how he feels before those episodes happen so he can see them coming and learn to eat or come to you or someone else and let them know he needs to eat. Depending on his age you could also start talking to him about avoiding situations where he would have a meltdown when he’s had that drop. Like going off by his self and reading or such while he waits for the food.

    • I think she was referring to being “hangry” and not a medical condition. My daughter is t1dm so I totally get the urgency of these situations but you read waaaay too far into it. Chill.

  8. This is sick

  9. I came across the link to this article on Crosswalk.com. I must say this is a fantastic article. I 100% agree with your list. My older son (age 11) does get cranky when he gets hungry, however, I do not allow him to get away with bad behavior or manners or make excuses for him. He’s learning to control his behavior when this situation arises. Thanks again for a great article!

  10. I found the ENTIRE article hilarious. Even the part about “Low blood sugar makes him cranky”. Our 5 year old daughter has Ketotic Hypoglycemia and it’s severe. She is only 29 lbs so she gets lows daily. I didn’t find it offensive because I read it in the context of the ENTIRE article. It would be like me excusing my 9 year old’s pre-pubescent piss-I-ness as low blood sugar instead of calling her out on it and straightening her up. She is in the 50th percentile for her age group and gets all dramatic and acts like she will just die if she doesn’t eat right the second she feels a hunger pang. That is not okay. It’s like the people that excuse their children’s pickiness by saying “Little Billy is ALLERGIC to that. Could you make him something else?” When in FACT they are not allergic, they are just spoiled. It puts the parents of children who do actually suffer from food allergies/hypoglycemia/insert medical condition here in a bad light.

  11. It’s too bad this has happened in mainstream America.

  12. There are many things in mainstream America that are happening that’s too bad. There are too many people that are already narcissists having children who learn from watching their parents. I know I learned all kinds of bad behaviors from my mother and good ones too. I think the real problem is that children aren’t being raised to know God as much as they used to.

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